Some of my entries are public because they are not really that personal. If you want to see my more personal entries with real life updates, pictures, and all that shizzle, then we'll have to be mutual friends. I'm not really that strict when it comes to friending. Actually, new friends are always welcome. ;) I just prefer that we have some things in common and/or we've already had prior contact.

Before you add me, I suggest you read my user info and/or my testimonials.



+ Username reasons: a.) It's a good way to honor one of my favorite novels by Nora Roberts, b.) It has this elegant and dramatic feel to it, c.) The contradictory words appeal to me more than you'll ever know, d.) Not only does it appeal to me, it is perfectly true in my case, no matter how paraodoxical.
+ If you added me just because of my graphics, please just head over to my graphics community, lilacwine7 (called it that coz' Jeff Buckley is awesome).
+ If we know each other in real life but are not close, please do not embarrass us both by asking to friend me. Feel free to seek me out on facebook, multiply, etc.
+ My entries cover a wide range of topics. I write movie, book, and TV show reviews when I'm up to it and I post pictures of myself, my friends, family, pets, and random stuff. I also write about what's been going on in real life. I avoid emo posts (because they are depressing for both myself and LJ friends) and political posts (because I am not a fan of bullshit). Also, I am admittedly self-centered so there will definitely be memes and personality quizzes.
+ I read your entries and I try my best to comment, but even if I don't comment all the time, I do read. This works both ways. I do appreciate your comments but I'm not one to pitch a hissy fit just because you don't comment on my entries all the time. ;)
+ You are more than welcome to disagree with me but please don't do it in a childish manner. Debating is good but bashing is totally uncool.
+ Of course, once you friend me, I also assume that I am welcome to disagree with something you say. Freedom of speech goes both ways.
+ I would really appreciate it if you explain why you want to friend me. It is just common courtesy to do so. Before you friend me, please ask first. Otherwise, I won't add you back because I'd assume you just friended me for no good reason.
+ I do believe in the idea of cutting friends, but I don't do that just for the hell of it. I do have reasons. Don't take it personally. If you want to know why I defriended you, ask politely, which you can do either via LJ comments, email, or IM. It's up to you. There's a big chance it's not even anything personal - something to do with us being in very different places or me not being able to relate with you anymore. For me, cutting friends =/= ZOMG I HATE YOU!
+ Last but not the least, if you want to friend me just to add to the number of your friends list (or for other superficial reasons), do not bother. I intend to really keep up with the people in my friends' list so I try to avoid unnecessary clutter.

[51] Gossip Girl
[28] Supernatural
[41] The Tudors



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+++ As much as possible, if you have any comments, please put them in my comm post. :) I like to have my feedback all in one place. :)

To the October, November, and December birthday celebrants, feel free to suggest topics for my next icon post!